So many commercials, magazines, books, and television shows offer advice on relationships and dating. Most of the tactics offered provide mediocre results when executed properly. The best advice always has the same core message: “Just be yourself.”
But what does this mean? No matter what your cultural or social background may be, we all receive mixed messages from an early age. This often makes it hard to get an grip on what we want in a partner, where we are going in a current relationship, or who we really are as individuals. Many people get into a relationship for the wrong reasons and wonder, “Is this it?”
Again, the best advice is to just be yourself. Figuring out who you are is a challenge and takes time, but it makes life worth living and sharing. If you have a hobby, pursue it. If you want to accomplish something, go for it. Life is too short when you are enjoying yourself, and too long when you are avoiding what you really want. If you are single and looking for a partner, you will meet many interesting people if you merely pursue your goals in life with patience and passion. Doing this exponentially increases the likelihood of finding a person that will be your lover, partner, confidant, and best friend.
Once you have found your partner and best friend, the advice for maintaining that relationship remains to just be yourself. Work on communication: share your thoughts, desires, feelings, and beliefs. Interacting this way builds intimacy, trust, and strengthens the connection you both share. You will never know where your journey with your partner will lead, but remember to enjoy the ride and grow together.